I’m going to be sharing some blog posts in the next few days, about relationship health. Wellness is not just about relieving back pain and other physical symptoms. Wellness is also emotional health and spiritual health. Relationship health falls into the emotional wellness category, and if there is a feeling of unwellness in your relationship, it has a negative and pervasive effect on the rest of our lives.
In my practice it is becoming clear to me how common it is to not feel completely well in our relationships and marriages, it seems to be more common to be struggling than to be well. Furthermore, it is becoming clear to me, how many people are living in abusive relationships without being aware that it is abusive because it isn’t physically abusive..
There are usually 7 stages of a healthy relationship. Relationships are dynamic. A static relationship is boring and can lead to the relationship breaking up. Most marriage problems and partnership break ups can be traced back to misunderstanding where we are in this dynamic marriage or relationship development.
No relationship on Earth can flourish if no effort is put in.
Feelings are fickle. Expecting feelings by themselves to keep a marriage together is unrealistic.
Conflicts are natural hurdles in our way, but they serve a important purpose. We grow, mature and become better people in the course of resolving and working through conflicts. It is the process of resolving conflicts which improves our character and helps us to bond. Remaining in conflict is a sign of emotional immaturity and those couples who get stuck in a conflict stage fail to mature.